For my courthouse wedding, I stalked this dress for MONTHS and messed around with other dresses and corsets and the whole deal. Was really unsure about the sequins, but the dress looked so great in Amazon reviewer pics I just went for it. Wow! Okay, first things first, you probably CAN wear it backwards. As a member of the IBTC I was afraid it would have nothing to catch on to but it sits comfortably as a cowl and I can't wait to try it on with a bra. Although the dress is absolutely gorgeous, I may return it if one of my other Amazon purchases works out better. I'm sort of scared to wear gold sequins to the courthouse. But at the same time, even in a plus size this dress is insanely flattering and beautifully lined and made and just flat out gorgeous. For anything but a wedding ceremony as the bride, I would not hesitate.And yes, sequins shed but it isn't the end of the world and has not affected the look of the dress. My ceremony and reception are separate and I have a white mantilla and wrap 50's petticoat dress for the latter. This was one I picked because my other ensemble is mermaidy, with a fishing net veil and gold starfish veil clips. If I can be brave enough, I think it will look really pretty.TLDR? This dress will probably fit you. If self-conscious, throw in a firm bodysuit. It can be reversed to have a front cowl, for sure. And it is a lovely all-season well made dress. Yes, it will be short on some and long on others. Base the shoes on the dress. I will try to add pics but I do really hope I end up keeping and wearing this dress as it was not a let down even after months of stalking it!